“Disciplining” someone else’s child: Why not?

Yesterday, I watched a very disturbing video of a young woman who beat up an older lady for “putting hands” on her kid. She was extremely physical with the woman,  kicking her in her stomach and back when she was down on the floor. But that’s not all: the little girl who was supposedly hit by the older woman, joined forces with her mother in beating her up.


The video, watched by many, was also strewn with comments concurring the actions of the mother……….and her 4 year-old daughter. You could even hear a man in the background egging them on. And of course, like most fights these days, it takes place in a McDonalds restaurant. People chimed in stating that they would so much as kill someone who “put hands” on their child. But is ‘hitting’ all that happens when a stranger corrects your child’s behavior? Not according to my mom!

Disciplining someone else’s child was practiced and encouraged in this country not long ago and is still practiced in countries around the world. It’s part of the whole village-raising-the-child theory.

My mom and her friends would say that that form of child rearing made them respectable people, who possess character and class. That’s not to say, there aren’t 50-somethings who lack honor and decency, but the number is much smaller than those of today’s generation.

We must admit that we do have a “respect” problem. It is very common to see youth today dishonoring elderly people when spoken to and going as far as to rob, assault, and attack them unprovoked.


Question: How many times have you been on the train or bus and there is a child kicking the back of your seat and you turn around and give a little smile hoping that the parent seeing this would encourage his/her child to stop? But it continues and continues and continues some more. So what do you do?
You have two options: you can just grit your teeth and wait until the bus arrives at your stop, then give the mother and child a bad look as you get off OR You can turn around and let the parent know that his/her child’s kicking is disruptive to you.

I have seen the first option play out all too often. But then out of the ashes, rise a brave soul that decides to go with Option 2, and is met with very poor results.
It is important to understand that, albeit the back of a chair being kicked is a minor offense, it is still an offense. Many parents today do not want strangers disciplining their children, but what happens when you turn to the parent to ask them to stop their child’s behavior and you are greeted with disrespect and contention? What then? I have witnessed someone politely complaining to a parent and then being bombarded with insults and profanity.

I do agree that a stranger’s discipline of a child should not be unrestrained or abusive, but if a parent won’t correct a child’s behavior, who can or will?

I am, of course, speaking from the perspective of someone who has not yet had a child, so perhaps, I may recant my statements once that changes. However, I am certain that I will take great comfort in knowing that there is someone out there that would stop my child from perpetuating any wrongdoing that could lead to unlawful and illegal practices. Just a thought.



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